“It’s not you, it’s me” is a phrase most used when breaking up with someone. It’s an attempt to spare the other person from hurt, but, is in fact about that person not measuring up to our standards. So is it really their shortcomings that prevents us from going further, or ours?\ What we call...Read More

In my conversations with men and women, I have often observed how articulate and perceptive they are when talking about the drawbacks of others. =For couples, this relates to describing the faults of their partners, remembering every displeasing detail and sounding off on what they had done wrong. For Singles, trying to find someone, it...Read More

“What’s wrong with me?” inquired my client.  It had been our first session and the question, an expected norm in my field, was being asked by an attractive female in her late 30’s, wanting to understand her single status. She was bright, intelligent and successful.  “Then why am I still Single?”. The exchange we had, shed light on where my...Read More

If you are reading this, chances are you are on your phone. Emailing, messaging, browsing and in general being consumed by online interactions have become the norm, where we may be surrounded by people, but in all sincerity, respond mostly to our phones. In true “Pavlovian” manner, we instantly jump as soon as we hear a sound...Read More