“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” (Carl G. Jung)

“It’s not you, it’s me” is a phrase most used when breaking up with someone. It’s an attempt to spare the other person from hurt, but, is in fact about that person not measuring up to our standards. So is it really their shortcomings that prevents us from going further, or ours?

What we call ‘reasons’  of not being with someone: “too plain”, “so nerdy” , “lacking confidence”, “ unattractive”, “not motivated”, are actually our own judgements and the sense that we are “better” than them. And while it’s good to have a healthy sense of self, it is important to ensure that in assessing someone, we are not being “too arrogant”, “impatient” , “ignorant”, “judgemental or “stubborn” and end up dismissing someone prematurely.

So before deciding if someone is wrong, take stock of yourself and make sure you’re right.

To good health & great relationships.